Tag Archives: assertiveness

Getting back in the driving seat of your life!

Last week I wrote about positive intentions and how these can keep us stuck if we do not find a new way to satisfy these important intentions. This week I want to build on what you need to do to … Continue reading

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Transforming poverty consciousness into abundance consciousness

Last week I wrote about changing external behaviours in relationship, this week I want to bring it back to the financial side of things. As with our ability to have relationship with people we also have a relationship with money. … Continue reading

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Changing on the outside by making external shifts

Last week I wrote about changing our values by changing our thinking. This week I want to expand on that theme. Whenever we make major internal shifts in our consciousness there are likely to changes that need to be made … Continue reading

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Stopping Games, stepping out of unhelpful patterns of behaviour

This week I am returning to the use of Transactional Analysis as a way of recognising and stopping negative repeating patterns of behaviour. Games are habits and we all have our own favourites. When coaching, games can be very destructive … Continue reading

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The Drama Triangle, understanding psychological games

Last week we started looking at games using the ideas suggested in Transactional Analysis. This week we will dig in a little further with another TA model called the “Drama Triangle” as developed by Karpman.  Games can be explored further … Continue reading

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Understanding the Games People Play

Over the next three weeks I will explain a little more about how we can recognise patterns using transactional analysis models and then how you can start making some changes. We often talk about people playing psychological games with each … Continue reading

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Getting perspective, how am I creating this?

This week I want to start exploring how we can move from being “at effect” to “at cause” in our life. You will remember from last week that being “at effect” is the experience of feeling helpless and victim like. … Continue reading

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Being the author of your own life!

For the last few weeks we have been exploring some aspects of handling other people as part of my series on personal power. This week I want to bring it back to you. As I write this we are about … Continue reading

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Being Assertive with people who are always right: a case study, part two

I had some great responses from several readers to last week’s case study. So for those of you who were waiting here’s my response. The most important thing to remember when dealing with people with this kind of mindset is … Continue reading

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Being Assertive with people who are always right: a case study

  As promised I’m going to share a real example with you this week of a person who had a tendency to take a position and defend it. If you remember from last week my encounter with this gentleman, we’ll … Continue reading

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