Category Archives: Transactional analysis

When old patterns get in the way of happiness

Something interesting happened yesterday. I was engaged in a discussion in a social media forum. I had posed a question about NLP and someone had made a good attempt at answering it. Here’s what happened next…. I responded having scan … Continue reading

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Getting back in the driving seat of your life!

Last week I wrote about positive intentions and how these can keep us stuck if we do not find a new way to satisfy these important intentions. This week I want to build on what you need to do to … Continue reading

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How can we stay safe if we let go of our fear, hurt and anger?

Following on from last week.. From an NLP perspective whenever we help someone tackle a personal issue we look at how to preserve the original “positive intention”. For example when we talk about letting go of either fear, hurt or … Continue reading

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Stopping Games, stepping out of unhelpful patterns of behaviour

This week I am returning to the use of Transactional Analysis as a way of recognising and stopping negative repeating patterns of behaviour. Games are habits and we all have our own favourites. When coaching, games can be very destructive … Continue reading

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The Drama Triangle, understanding psychological games

Last week we started looking at games using the ideas suggested in Transactional Analysis. This week we will dig in a little further with another TA model called the “Drama Triangle” as developed by Karpman.  Games can be explored further … Continue reading

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Understanding the Games People Play

Over the next three weeks I will explain a little more about how we can recognise patterns using transactional analysis models and then how you can start making some changes. We often talk about people playing psychological games with each … Continue reading

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Being Assertive with people who are always right: a case study, part two

I had some great responses from several readers to last week’s case study. So for those of you who were waiting here’s my response. The most important thing to remember when dealing with people with this kind of mindset is … Continue reading

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Assertively handling people who are always “right”!

A couple of weeks ago I promised we would start talking about how to handle particular challenging behaviours so let’s make a start this week. I wonder how many of you know someone who is “always right” even when they’re … Continue reading

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Re-balancing our ability to self evaluate

Last week I began talking about how being overly externally referenced can lead to a risk of placing our self esteem into the hands of others. As I mentioned last week we will have developed this style of referencing for … Continue reading

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Becoming Magnificent! The Resilient Mind.

This week I want to complete my series of blogs about resilience, that bounce back factor that allows us to experience life in a positive and fulfilling way.  “The Power of Resilience” written by Robert Brooks and Sam Goldstein has … Continue reading

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