Sometimes something small can trigger me into thinking negatively. For example, Spam!
There are a number of spam emails I receive regularly, some three or four times a week. Each time I tagged them as spam expecting my computer to eventually get the message. And then to make matters worse emails I want get sent straight to spam for some mysterious reason. For example, one of my friends who is also a colleague now has to text me to tell me she has sent me an email!
What happens for me if I get irritated is that I start thinking negative thoughts and wind myself up. My brain or my unconscious or whatever you want to call it gets helpful at this point.
I am creating in myself negative states to use the NLP term or if we talk from a science perspective I am creating brain chemistry associated with feeling negative. So as a result I start escalating my thinking via association or anchoring. I begin thinking about more serious things that I have felt negative about in the past.
Often these are things that I have perhaps already dealt with emotionally and yet I can re-stimulate the feelings by how I talk to myself.
What is the answer?
Here are two for you to consider. Firstly we can distract ourselves by doing something different, in NLP we would call this a pattern interrupt or a state break. For me this might be playing with the dogs.
Another alternative is to write down what is bother you. In a way that is what I’m doing now. There was some research published last year and reported on in New Scientist that when we write down negative things it is a way of dissociating ourselves from it. This allows us to let it go. The idea is to write it down without any need to revisit what you have written so you can throw it away. By throwing it away or putting it in the trash on your computer you are symbolically letting go of the issue.
Give it a try. The pictures today are intended to help you focus on the positive, I hope you like them.