The emotion of being happy is something we experience in the moment. Think about it for a moment. Emotion, and I mean all emotions are short lived bio-chemical reactions created by the focus of our thoughts in any moment.
Consider that phone call. If it is amazing, great news we can instantly access happiness maybe even joy! If the news is less good the opposite may be the fact. Our anger is equally a momentary event.
Rather than waiting for some external event to happen choose to be happy right now. Even if things in your life are challenging give yourself permission to take a “happiness holiday”. Find something positive to focus on that will make you smile and allow your body to trigger a happiness reaction.
For example, go outside and hug a tree! People often joke about tree hugging and yet actually it can be a very calming thing to do. Rest your cheek against the bark and feel that roughness, sink into the tree and feel the warmth. Connect to the energy within.
Listen, you might sense the beat of the tree or hear birds singing, the wind rustling the leaves and branches or maybe even your own heartbeat.
Nature is full of things to focus on that will allow happiness to emerge. My favourite right now is watching the acrobatics of the squirrels as they creatively work out how to access the bird feeders!
If you use facebook, focus on the positive videos for a while. If you look on my facebook page GWizNLP you will see lots of cuddly videos alongside the brain ones. There is a great one with baby pandas.
So instead of saying “I’ll be happy when..” say “I’ll be happy now!”