Constructive Day Dreaming, bringing the future to life

fog on the forestSo what is constructive day dreaming?

Here’s my definition, taking yourself into the future in a way that is helpful and meaningful.

For example, we have some building work starting here on Tuesday. The work is major structural changes to our bedroom level. It is easy to see that with a project like this there was some planning involved!

We have been in this house for about 18 months or so. The bedroom level has four bedrooms but only one is a reasonable size. A whole one third of the level is a balcony. Although the views are stunning the use of space is less stunning.

So we started to dream about how we would like things to be. In our imagination we created a layout and design. We imagined having all the space we could desire including two of the bedrooms becoming our individual studies or dens.

Anyone who has ever been involved in building work will know dreaming is not enough. We had to get planning permission, work out how we would pay for it and then find a trustworthy builder to do the work.

This is all very practical however in order to do this we need to put ourselves into our future and look back to see the end result. In NLP we call this future pacing. When we do this with practical projects such as this it can sometimes help us to check out if we even really want the change.

Sometimes we dream about something but when we get it we realise we don’t want it after all. Future pacing can sometimes help us get to that position without physically having to take the step.

Future pacing is also important with less tangible goals too. For example making a major life change or finding a relationship.

Next week I will expand on this subject and how we apply future pacing to relationships and major life changes.

By the way I’ve just had our website re-designed, there are still a few kinks but do take a look and let me know what you think. IMG_4012_ silver lining cloud edited-1_edited-2



About Melody @ GWizlearning

Melody spent fourteen years gathering experience of the business world working in banking, telecommunications and the public sector before co-founding The GWiz Learning Partnership in 1993. Melody has a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology, a degree in Psychology and a diploma in Psychotherapy. She is an NLP Master Trainer which allows her to run NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer Training courses certified by the Positive School of Intrinsic Neuro-Linguistc Psychology. She is also a qualified Myers Briggs practitioner and EI practitioner and added to all this is five years Transactional Analysis training, meaning she is able to help organisations access the hidden potential in their staff. She is also in demand for her work in transforming average or even troubled teams into high performers. Melody is a visiting lecturer at University of East London, teaching "Wellbeing and Positive Psychology" to undergraduates. Additionally, she is a member of the CIPD and is ILM accredited. Melody's interests are many and varied. She has a keen interest in personal development, canine and wolf psychology, conservation, movies and running. She also enjoys western horse riding, walking the GWiz dogs, nature watching and stage combat (particularly sword fighting).
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