Day Dreaming without a safety net

Still with the focus on the future consider how you might live in the future in a positive way. Most people day dream.

What kind of day dreams do you have?Blue flower

For some it is about winning the lottery, meeting that perfect partner or making it as a star. I know I do from time to time have that day dream about the lottery!

Generally you could argue this is a harmless pastime, a little bit of fun perhaps. Unfortunately for some the impact of this kind of day dreaming is far from harmless.

It can be the beginning of a hope/disillusionment cycle. Take the lottery as an example. The person imagines they have won the lottery and all the changes it will make in their life. They make the dream compelling, colourful and attractive adding layer upon layer of detail.

Lottery draw comes and their numbers don’t come up. Disappointment!

This kind of day dreaming can become a formal of disengagement with reality leading to hopelessness and depression. In many ways it is a form of defence but can lead to unhappiness and lethargy in the long run.

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I’m not saying give up day dreaming, a little Walter Mitty is good for us all but to pin your hopes on a fantasy can lead to disaster. It is not enough to just think positive thoughts we need to do more and next week I will share some ideas with you on how day dream constructively.


About Melody @ GWizlearning

Melody spent fourteen years gathering experience of the business world working in banking, telecommunications and the public sector before co-founding The GWiz Learning Partnership in 1993. Melody has a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology, a degree in Psychology and a diploma in Psychotherapy. She is an NLP Master Trainer which allows her to run NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer Training courses certified by the Positive School of Intrinsic Neuro-Linguistc Psychology. She is also a qualified Myers Briggs practitioner and EI practitioner and added to all this is five years Transactional Analysis training, meaning she is able to help organisations access the hidden potential in their staff. She is also in demand for her work in transforming average or even troubled teams into high performers. Melody is a visiting lecturer at University of East London, teaching "Wellbeing and Positive Psychology" to undergraduates. Additionally, she is a member of the CIPD and is ILM accredited. Melody's interests are many and varied. She has a keen interest in personal development, canine and wolf psychology, conservation, movies and running. She also enjoys western horse riding, walking the GWiz dogs, nature watching and stage combat (particularly sword fighting).
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