Still with the focus on the future consider how you might live in the future in a positive way. Most people day dream.
For some it is about winning the lottery, meeting that perfect partner or making it as a star. I know I do from time to time have that day dream about the lottery!
Generally you could argue this is a harmless pastime, a little bit of fun perhaps. Unfortunately for some the impact of this kind of day dreaming is far from harmless.
It can be the beginning of a hope/disillusionment cycle. Take the lottery as an example. The person imagines they have won the lottery and all the changes it will make in their life. They make the dream compelling, colourful and attractive adding layer upon layer of detail.
Lottery draw comes and their numbers don’t come up. Disappointment!
This kind of day dreaming can become a formal of disengagement with reality leading to hopelessness and depression. In many ways it is a form of defence but can lead to unhappiness and lethargy in the long run.
I’m not saying give up day dreaming, a little Walter Mitty is good for us all but to pin your hopes on a fantasy can lead to disaster. It is not enough to just think positive thoughts we need to do more and next week I will share some ideas with you on how day dream constructively.