Acknowledging your Strengths, get too big for your boots!

In our culture, and by our culture I mean UK and much of Europe, we are reluctant to “blow our own trumpet”. We are taught this is “big headed”, boastful and arrogant. Sadly this often results in people feeling uncomfortable about owning their strengths, achievements and talents.

I would like you this week to challenge this within yourself. Get clear about your strengths. Make friends with them. Be proud of your strengths because while you acknowledge your own strengths you can also recognise them in others.

This week I have been teaching some new mentors the skills and approaches useful when mentoring and helping others. One of the things we discussed was this;

“Mentors need to role model celebrating

success and acknowledging strengths.”

Perhaps it is time for us all to realise that by acknowledging our strengths we are role modelling for others that it is okay to do so.

I do think it is okay to have some social sensitivity and to do this in a way that will be nurturing for ourselves and others. There will be appropriate times and places.

If this is uncomfortable for you here is my challenge for you, start by acknowledging your strengths to yourself. Once you have done that share your strengths with at least three people you trust. Encourage them to share theirs with you.

Let me know how you get on. And to role model let me tell you that last week on my photography course I did really well. At the end we had a little competition and I won! I’ve included my winning photograph for you to see.

Oh and by the way if you are getting too big for your boots, just get a bigger pair!!

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About Melody @ GWizlearning

Melody spent fourteen years gathering experience of the business world working in banking, telecommunications and the public sector before co-founding The GWiz Learning Partnership in 1993. Melody has a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology, a degree in Psychology and a diploma in Psychotherapy. She is an NLP Master Trainer which allows her to run NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer Training courses certified by the Positive School of Intrinsic Neuro-Linguistc Psychology. She is also a qualified Myers Briggs practitioner and EI practitioner and added to all this is five years Transactional Analysis training, meaning she is able to help organisations access the hidden potential in their staff. She is also in demand for her work in transforming average or even troubled teams into high performers. Melody is a visiting lecturer at University of East London, teaching "Wellbeing and Positive Psychology" to undergraduates. Additionally, she is a member of the CIPD and is ILM accredited. Melody's interests are many and varied. She has a keen interest in personal development, canine and wolf psychology, conservation, movies and running. She also enjoys western horse riding, walking the GWiz dogs, nature watching and stage combat (particularly sword fighting).
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2 Responses to Acknowledging your Strengths, get too big for your boots!

  1. Love that last bit. Get a bigger pair! So true. Another thought that used to bother me was “Who do you think you are?!” Still does from time to time, but now I just dismiss it. I don’t know where the person is who put this idea in my mind, but I hope that she is well and has learnt that life is a good thing to live. I have let go of the negative part she played in my life. Which brings us onto the subject of forgiveness. Perhaps you could look at this some time eh?

  2. I did talk about forgiveness a few weeks ago but might come back to it again. It is something that is used in Positive Psychology.

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