Recognising Parallel Processes in Coaching

I know many of my readers are coaches and NLP Practitioners so this week I wanted to share some information about the concept of parallel processes.

What is a parallel process?

A parallel process is a dynamic in relationships that is being replicated on more than one level in a system. Parallel processing is a form of transference. For example the parallel process may start with a client and end up in a supervisions session as follows.

Level 1: Client explains to coach about an issue where the client feels a member of their team is hostile when discussing solutions to a problem.

Level 2: The coach experiences the client as hostile while discussing this issue.

Level 3: The coach takes the issue to supervision and the supervisor experiences the coach as hostile.

You will notice that the levels talk about “experiencing” hostility as a reminder that much of this is perception and filters. When we become aware of parallel processes we can use the parallel to help the other person gain awareness and transformation.

This can be done in two ways, either by conscious reflection and discussion or by the coach/supervisor introducing a positive parallel that unconsciously aids with transformation.

About Melody @ GWizlearning

Melody spent fourteen years gathering experience of the business world working in banking, telecommunications and the public sector before co-founding The GWiz Learning Partnership in 1993. Melody has a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology, a degree in Psychology and a diploma in Psychotherapy. She is an NLP Master Trainer which allows her to run NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer Training courses certified by the Positive School of Intrinsic Neuro-Linguistc Psychology. She is also a qualified Myers Briggs practitioner and EI practitioner and added to all this is five years Transactional Analysis training, meaning she is able to help organisations access the hidden potential in their staff. She is also in demand for her work in transforming average or even troubled teams into high performers. Melody is a visiting lecturer at University of East London, teaching "Wellbeing and Positive Psychology" to undergraduates. Additionally, she is a member of the CIPD and is ILM accredited. Melody's interests are many and varied. She has a keen interest in personal development, canine and wolf psychology, conservation, movies and running. She also enjoys western horse riding, walking the GWiz dogs, nature watching and stage combat (particularly sword fighting).
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2 Responses to Recognising Parallel Processes in Coaching

  1. Paul says:

    Always fascinated by parallel processes and how sometimes you attract clients with similar presenting ‘problems’ great reminder to check what your projecting. Thanks Melody

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