We are now on day two of our NLP Trainer’s Training and I’ve stepped out of class to write this blog while Joe continues to work with the group.
So I thought I would look at the list of topics identified last week as areas for further discussion and have decided to write about “choice” this week.
In our NLP training we use some ideas called NLP Pre-suppositions. These are a group of “beliefs” that if we choose to adopt can help us live a happier life. At PSiNLP we developed our own set of Presuppositions of which the following is an example:
Choice always exists even (when it doesn’t appear to)
Over the next couple of blogs I would like to explore a little more what this NLP presupposition means and how you can use it.
I’d like to start by clarifying why believing that we have choice is a useful mindset.
No matter what is happening in our lives when we feel like we have a choice it gives us a sense of personal control over our experience. This sense of control allows us to feel stronger and more “on top” of things.
It takes us out of victim feelings. Even if we have experienced someone else behaving in a way that has been emotionally, psychologically or even physically harmful to us we need to let go of the feeling of being a victim.
Now I want to be very clear about this. I am not talking about letting people off the hook who do bad things. In fact the opposite may well be true. When we step out of victim we step into our personal power. From a place of personal power we are more likely to take action that is supportive of our own growth and development.
This might mean standing up to someone or reporting a particular behaviour to the appropriate authorities.
It is for our own well being that we need to step out of victim whether about a serious issue or a more mundane one.
By giving ourselves this choice we are setting ourselves free.
Next week we will discuss and define what choice actually is and as this thread develops how to give yourself choice more often.
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