Choice always exists (even when doesn’t appear to)

We are now on day two of our NLP Trainer’s Training and I’ve stepped out of class to write this blog while Joe continues to work with the group.

So I thought I would look at the list of topics identified last week as areas for further discussion and have decided to write about “choice” this week.

In our NLP training we use some ideas called NLP Pre-suppositions. These are a group of “beliefs” that if we choose to adopt can help us live a happier life. At PSiNLP we developed our own set of Presuppositions of which the following is an example:

Choice always exists even (when it doesn’t appear to)

Over the next couple of blogs I would like to explore a little more what this NLP presupposition means and how you can use it.

I’d like to start by clarifying why believing that we have choice is a useful mindset.

No matter what is happening in our lives when we feel like we have a choice it gives us a sense of personal control over our experience. This sense of control allows us to feel stronger and more “on top” of things.

It takes us out of victim feelings. Even if we have experienced someone else behaving in a way that has been emotionally, psychologically or even physically harmful to us we need to let go of the feeling of being a victim.

Now I want to be very clear about this. I am not talking about letting people off the hook who do bad things. In fact the opposite may well be true. When we step out of victim we step into our personal power. From a place of personal power we are more likely to take action that is supportive of our own growth and development.

This might mean standing up to someone or reporting a particular behaviour to the appropriate authorities.

It is for our own well being that we need to step out of victim whether about a serious issue or a more mundane one.

By giving ourselves this choice we are setting ourselves free.

Next week we will discuss and define what choice actually is and as this thread develops how to give yourself choice more often.

Next month I am running an intensive Hypnotherapy Training course at our venue beside the beautiful Ashdown Forest in East Sussex. If you would like to join us do follow the link below for more information.

About Melody @ GWizlearning

Melody spent fourteen years gathering experience of the business world working in banking, telecommunications and the public sector before co-founding The GWiz Learning Partnership in 1993. Melody has a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology, a degree in Psychology and a diploma in Psychotherapy. She is an NLP Master Trainer which allows her to run NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer Training courses certified by the Positive School of Intrinsic Neuro-Linguistc Psychology. She is also a qualified Myers Briggs practitioner and EI practitioner and added to all this is five years Transactional Analysis training, meaning she is able to help organisations access the hidden potential in their staff. She is also in demand for her work in transforming average or even troubled teams into high performers. Melody is a visiting lecturer at University of East London, teaching "Wellbeing and Positive Psychology" to undergraduates. Additionally, she is a member of the CIPD and is ILM accredited. Melody's interests are many and varied. She has a keen interest in personal development, canine and wolf psychology, conservation, movies and running. She also enjoys western horse riding, walking the GWiz dogs, nature watching and stage combat (particularly sword fighting).
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