Last week I explained how you can recognise Limiting Identity Beliefs that you have been holding about yourself for a long time. This week is all about re-framing your beliefs and getting ready to transform some of your identity beliefs completely.
We are going to look at reframing two types of limiting belief. The first type of belief are beliefs that are clearly unhelpful for example “I am the fat one”. The second type of belief is mainly positive but has elements that are limiting such as “I am kind”.
So as a reminder our first type of belief “I am the fat one” translates as
“I” = “fat one”.
Look at that for a moment and consider it from a new perspective and realise that this is untrue. What may be true is that if you step on the scales you may weigh more than you would like to weigh or if you look in the mirror you can see your body has more weight on it than you want. These are just descriptors of your current body shape and/ or size.
Your essence as a human being is far more significant than the label you have been giving yourself. If I were working with you one to one we would spend time crafting an appropriate replacement empowering belief to replace this old one. For the purposes of today I am going to suggest a range of possibilities that will work as a replacement for most limiting identity beliefs. What I would like you to do is choose at least one to adopt and try out for the next week.
“I am enough.”
“I am worthy”
“I am loveable and loving”
“I am magnificent”
“I am amazing”
Now I recognise that some of you may be squirming, that is okay, go with it. We will explore what to do next in the coming weeks.
Now let’s look at that second kind of belief, a positive one that has some limitations attached to it such as “I am kind”. With this kind of belief it is important to recognise the importance of the original belief and maintain it. Instead of replacing this belief we are going to add some extra thoughts. Use my example to model how you open up your positive beliefs so they too are empowering. For example:
“I am kind and……”
“..recognise it is kind to let others help me”
“…and can accept kindness from others”.
“…and understand it is okay to also have boundaries”
“…and know that being assertive is another form of kindness”
I trust you get the idea. If you get stuck crafting your own reframes post a comment letting me know where you are up to and I’ll help you get there.
Next week we will look at the “ecology” and “positive intentions” behind these replacement beliefs.
. If you would like to get on with an exercise designed at changing limiting beliefs download my free MP3 Audio and follow the exercise Changing Beliefs. Here’s the link