Reframing Limiting Beliefs into Empowering ones

Last week I explained how you can recognise Limiting Identity Beliefs that you have been holding about yourself for a long time. This week is all about re-framing your beliefs and getting ready to transform some of your identity beliefs completely.

We are going to look at reframing two types of limiting belief. The first type of belief are beliefs that are clearly unhelpful for example “I am the fat one”. The second type of belief is mainly positive but has elements that are limiting such as “I am kind”.

So as a reminder our first type of belief “I am the fat one” translates as

“I” = “fat one”.

Look at that for a moment and consider it from a new perspective and realise that this is untrue. What may be true is that if you step on the scales you may weigh more than you would like to weigh or if you look in the mirror you can see your body has more weight on it than you want. These are just descriptors of your current body shape and/ or size.

Your essence as a human being is far more significant than the label you have been giving yourself. If I were working with you one to one we would spend time crafting an appropriate replacement empowering belief to replace this old one. For the purposes of today I am going to suggest a range of possibilities that will work as a replacement for most limiting identity beliefs. What I would like you to do is choose at least one to adopt and try out for the next week.

“I am enough.”

“I am worthy”

“I am loveable and loving”

“I am magnificent”

“I am amazing”

Now I recognise that some of you may be squirming, that is okay, go with it. We will explore what to do next in the coming weeks.

Now let’s look at that second kind of belief, a positive one that has some limitations attached to it such as “I am kind”. With this kind of belief it is important to recognise the importance of the original belief and maintain it. Instead of replacing this belief we are going to add some extra thoughts. Use my example to model how you open up your positive beliefs so they too are empowering. For example:

 “I am kind and……”

“..recognise it is kind to let others help me”

“…and can accept kindness from others”.

“…and understand it is okay to also have boundaries”

“…and know that being assertive is another form of kindness”

I trust you get the idea. If you get stuck crafting your own reframes post a comment letting me know where you are up to and I’ll help you get there.

Next week we will look at the “ecology” and “positive intentions” behind these replacement beliefs.

. If you would like to get on with an exercise designed at changing limiting beliefs download my free MP3 Audio and follow the exercise Changing Beliefs. Here’s the link


About Melody @ GWizlearning

Melody spent fourteen years gathering experience of the business world working in banking, telecommunications and the public sector before co-founding The GWiz Learning Partnership in 1993. Melody has a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology, a degree in Psychology and a diploma in Psychotherapy. She is an NLP Master Trainer which allows her to run NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer Training courses certified by the Positive School of Intrinsic Neuro-Linguistc Psychology. She is also a qualified Myers Briggs practitioner and EI practitioner and added to all this is five years Transactional Analysis training, meaning she is able to help organisations access the hidden potential in their staff. She is also in demand for her work in transforming average or even troubled teams into high performers. Melody is a visiting lecturer at University of East London, teaching "Wellbeing and Positive Psychology" to undergraduates. Additionally, she is a member of the CIPD and is ILM accredited. Melody's interests are many and varied. She has a keen interest in personal development, canine and wolf psychology, conservation, movies and running. She also enjoys western horse riding, walking the GWiz dogs, nature watching and stage combat (particularly sword fighting).
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6 Responses to Reframing Limiting Beliefs into Empowering ones

  1. Rachel Dando says:

    Reframing limiting beliefs is a powerful process to bring about meaningful and lasting change in your life! NLP Practitioner offers the foundation skills and knowledge to allow people to empower themselves and achieve more of what they want in life!

  2. Melody Cheal says:

    very true! I’m delivering NLP Practitioner as I type this. The group are busy doing a skills practice right now helping each other to transform limiting beliefs to empowering one!

  3. wendystrohm says:

    by the end of the group I hope to change a limiting belief for myself as well as be able to help others to do so.

  4. JO says:

    Really helpful blog as always and more to practice x thank you

  5. Melody Cheal says:

    Thanks Jo & Wendy, let me know how you get on :0)

  6. Hello Melody, thanks for connecting via Twitter. You have interesting blog posts

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