Firstly for those of you who are wondering, our issue of last week is resolved and we now have our new home secured. So the stress that was beginning to trigger a desire to overeat has passed and I can reflect even more objectively on my experience. It did feel like something has changed inside and the desire was low and barely had an impact.
How have I made these changes?
A good question! In considering this I have also reflected on the many comments and stories that you have shared with me. Many people sent me personal words of support and love. It was a great reminder to me about the importance of support. It really made a difference talking and writing about my experience.
An important part of this process for me was acknowledging that I was starting feel the desire to overeat and binge. By naming it and sharing that with others I released myself from the secrecy and reducing the impulse.
As a species we are a social animal and we do better when we have support from others. The type of support we get however is vital. We need to find people who will support us in a positive and helpful way. Sometimes those we are nearest to want to support us but are inadvertently reinforcing all the old patterns. This may be by providing “helpful” criticism or by offering comments about loving you anyway.
For this reason I suggest you take stock of where you get your support from, while not wanting to reject those we love it is also important that you protect yourself from unhelpful messages no matter how well meaning they are.
Finding groups of like minded people may be the best way to start and this is why support groups are so popular. When we have shared experiences it helps us to feel more accepted and loved. We can share our experiences with others and feel understood.
The important thing about any group is to ensure it continues to provide an environment of growth. Sometimes over time a group just becomes a place to stay stuck so constant review is also key.
The internet is now providing new ways to find like minded people and is certainly a place to start. I suggest you go back and read some of the comments people have left on my blog and perhaps add some of your own. I also began a number of conversations on Linkedin, all of these were very positive and worth engaging in.
Finding a professional to support you can also be a bonus, perhaps even a team of professionals. Perhaps a fitness coach, a nutritional expert and someone to help you with the emotional side of things such as an NLP Practitioner or Hypnotherapist.
Either way be certain to get into the habit of reaching out to others particularly if your eating is associated with negative feelings. If you talk to someone you make find your desire to overeat reduces.
I’m keeping the blog short this week as I’m in the middle of teaching my Hypnotherapy programme to a very keen group of people so I’ll say goodbye for now. Do let me know your thoughts about the best way to find support on your journey. And do leave a comment if you are needing advice on how to find a support group for yourself.