This week I will be starting to get into the detail I pre-framed last week about how weight issues are not about food. There are many resources out there and indeed a multi-million pound industry devoted to helping people lose weight. Sadly some may be interested in repeat business!!
Traditional weight loss organisations are starting to recognise the importance of the mind body connection and incorporating some techniques to help with this. Unfortunately in most cases this is a little under skilled and tends to be a bolt-on to the original format.
NLP and hypnotherapy has also been helping people with weight loss however in most cases clients are told they don’t need to follow traditional methods because working on the unconscious will be enough. This is mind without body. This advice is unhelpful as both mind and body are important.
In true NLP style we need to model the effective aspects of traditional approaches and add the NLP/mind aspect to synthesise a truly effective and long lasting approach. This is my intention and in January I will be running a pilot programme to test these ideas out.
It will be no surprise to you to recognise the weight issues have nothing to do with overeating! Well that’s not true, there is a connection. If we eat more than our body expends in energy we put on weight. However the reasons we overeat are seldom connected to hunger and appetite. In most cases there are emotional and psychological reasons that are sometimes conscious but usually unconscious.
Consider the following categories and where you might place yourself:
- Very underweight (there are a number of sub-categories for this one, for now I will be focusing on reducing weight, being under weight is a subject for another day.
- Slightly underweight, maybe eating is a low priority and meals are often skipped.
- Naturally slim and healthy, able to maintain a healthy weight unconsciously.
- Occasionally gain weight but lose it again fairly easily, again not an issue
- Slightly overweight, this category may be more about over-eating than emotional eating for some people.
- Gradual weight gain with age, maybe part of normal aging process however we can manage this if we wish to.
- Always had a weight problem from slight to extreme.
- Sudden weight gain in adulthood.
Yoyo dieters will have started in one of the above categories originally. There are a number of possible causes for the above categories that can be mixed and matched, the following list is by no means complete:
- Family history and tradition – this occurs where there are weight issues within a family and children born into this environment develop strategies and beliefs that are unhealthy. Eating is often used for celebrations and a way of sharing love in a family.
- Critical or non-nurturing childhood – food has become medication, a way of comforting one’s self. Sometimes food is the only friend. If combined with family history and tradition the consequences can be much more extreme.
- Trauma in childhood – in some cases there is an unconscious decision to become overweight as a protection of some kind. Care should be taken to avoid assumptions about abuse etc, this may or may not be a factor.
- Trauma or changes in circumstances in adulthood can also sometimes trigger weight gain.
- Life events both positive and negative – busy and stressed life style on one end through to complacency and contentment on the other. Joe and I put on a lot of weight when we first got together eating chocolate and watching movies together! This category also includes women who gain weight after childbirth.
There may be other causes and if you can think of any major ones I’ve missed let me know.
I’m also going to share so tips about the physics of weight loss too! This one I got from Jillian Michaels. Substitue cauliflower for mash potatoes. I like this one, it tastes fairly similar when you mash the cauli up but is much better for you and has less calories!
Over the next few weeks I will delving into this topic in more detail. I would really welcome your input and ideas on this. Please share with me your life experiences and challenges. Are you someone who has dealt with this issue or is it still current for you?