As I sit here on a sunny afternoon watching Andy Murray going for Gold at the Olympics it is easy to see how important contribution is for the resilient mindset. Our world is enriched by all the amazing sports men and women bringing their passion to this amazing world event.
I have noticed how often congratulations and joy are shared among the competitors. Regularly this week I have seen people genuinely pleased for one another even when this has meant missing out on medals themselves. Contribution and appreciation of the contribution of others is most definitely evident at this years Olympics.
People who lack resilience often find it hard to contribute to society, they are caught up in their own experiences and are perhaps just getting by in life. One of the things that helps us to make a contribution is the ability to connect a sense of meaning to our lives and what we do. By finding what is most meaningful in your life it is possible to boost your natural resilience, your bounce back factor increases.
As part of our NLP Master Practitioner we include a process called “The Wonderful Life” process based on the amazing film of the similar name. This process helps our students acknowledge and recognise the contribution they have already made to the world and so connect to personal meaning. We follow this up with a process designed to help people identify their life purpose helping our students set the compass for their future contribution.
When we find meaning in our lives and have the ability to make a contribution we feel better about ourselves, our self esteem is stronger and we are resilient. Often it is difficult to practice compassion without resilience and yet the more we practice compassion the more resilient we get. Paradoxically by tuning into to compassion we can also boost our resilience, we experience a double loop boost to our bounce back factor.
My challenge to you this week is to consider where you could be showing more compassion, start by considering people you find difficult. What could be the reason? How could you think about that person differently and with more compassion? Notice what happens as you do this. You may still need to put in boundaries however notice how much easier life becomes when you allow compassion in.
Review your contribution to the world. Are you living your life purpose? Do you have meaning in your life? If the answer is “no” start taking steps to identify what is meaningful to you and where your passion lies.
If you would like some help identifying your life purpose, contribution and your compassion remember NLP is a great place to start. We have now published our NLP programme for 2013 so if you would like to join us check out our events page for both courses in 2012 and 2013. Follow the link below for more information:
And finally Congratulations Andy Murray! You’ve done it! Well done!