This week as I continue my exploration into strategies to increase resilience and well-being I turn my attention to managing emotional baggage. Emotional baggage contributes to our stress levels. When we handle our emotions well our stress levels reduce, our well-being increases and our ability to bounce back increases. In other words our resilience is boosted.
There are two ways to consider this issue. Firstly there is our ability to handle high emotions in the moment. Secondly is our ability to let go of emotions from our past that are impacting on our present.
Not surprisingly these two factors are connected. Our ability to deal with here and now emotions is greatly increased if we have dealt with emotional baggage from our past.
Let me give you an example, if a person has developed a “short temper” based on their early programming they will have a short temper in the here and now. This means that managing anger is likely to be an ongoing problem. This person will be triggered by events, behaviours and thoughts that common and quite frankly no big deal.
To a person with a “hair trigger” these stimuli will in fact be a very big deal!
A second example could be a person who takes feedback from others personally and is hyper-sensitive. This person will perceive slights where none are intended, will be hurt by casual comments from others.
For most people emotional baggage is closely related to self-esteem, the lower someone’s self-esteem the emotionally out of balance they are likely to be.
How do we release emotional baggage?
There are many different ways of addressing emotional baggage and often it is about finding the right approach for you. Here are a few options:
Cathartic approaches can work for many people and can include techniques such as “psychodrama” and guided visualisations. There are many courses that use this approach. One course I would recommend helped me tremendously when I started out on my personal development journey. It is called the Turning Point and it is run in the UK, New Zealand and Australia. Below is the link for the UK provider Soul Purpose.
A second approach you could consider uses insight and self- awareness. This approach is Transactional Analysis and is made up of a series of useful models to explore patterns and baggage. Understanding our patterns and developing alternative strategies based on self-awareness helps us to change. This September I am running an introduction to Transactional Analysis aimed at coaches and trainers. For more information click on the link below:
A third approach involves changing the way we process information using techniques from NLP and Hypnotherapy. Both of these approaches allow us to harness the power of the unconscious mind using imagery and symbolic metaphor. The big advantage to these approaches centres on the fact that it is unnecessary to examine the detail of childhood experiences in order to change. What we are doing is changing the way the brain processes information.
Most importantly learning and important strategies from childhood are preserved without the emotional load. This releases us to feel better about ourselves, improving self-esteem , well-being and resilience.
We are offering a number of opportunities for you to join us for both NLP and Hypnotherapy. For people new to NLP we are offering an opportunity to attend a free two day introduction to NLP, see the link below and follow the link for the NLP 101 workshop:
We offer NLP at Diploma, NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and Trainer’s Training level so even if you have started your NLP journey do consider continuing with us, for example on our Master Practitioner programme we look at topics such as personal identity and life’s purpose!
Hypnotherapy can allow people to change at a profound and deep level and harnesses the unconscious even more. If you would like training in this area you could join me in October. For this course NLP Practitioner is a pre-requisite. Follow the link below for more information:
Next week I will look at some ways of processing emotions in the here and now. Until then have a wonderful week and we’ll talk again next time.