Recognising who we really are!

One of our recently qualified NLP Trainer’s, Raymond Honings made a comment about last week’s blog;

“Number 3 is so true for me right now. I guess this really kicked last summer during the
TT2011. Things are really falling into the right place now (inside and outside).”

So I thought this would be a great place to start when explaining the PSiNLP Pre-suppositions. So what is number three?

“Self actualisation is the process of recognising who we already are.”

I love this one too, so what does it mean? Let’s start with self actualisation,  at PSiNLP we acknowledge the link NLP has with earlier history in particular Maslow, Rogers and the Humanistic Movement.

Self actualisation is a topic written about by Maslow in the first half of the twentieth century. In his book “Toward a Psychology of Being” Maslow wrote the following

 “ongoing actualization of potentials, capacities and talents, as fulfillment of mission
(or call, fate, destiny, or vocation)……………………………………. a fuller knowledge of, and
acceptance of, the person’s own intrinsic nature, as an unceasing trend toward unity, integration or synergy within the person.”

 To put more simply, self actualisation is the ongoing process by which each person’s unique potential is realised.

In NLP generally and in PSiNLP in particular we are in the business of facilitating people in the ongoing process of realising their own potential.

If you would like to read some detailed books on NLP, Maslow and Self actualisation I recommend you read Michael Hall’s book, Self Actualising Psychology and other books in this series (link below).

So to return to our pre-supposition,  we believe that we already have full potential however many people haven’t recognised that yet!

Consider this idea, suppose we live just one life time and at the point of conception we are
magnificent pure potential. The world is our oyster, our potential futures are many and varied.

As that tiny being grows, first in the womb and then in the world it experiences nurturing and learnings from the environment and people that surround it. Even in the most nurturing of families it is as if many veils are draped around the brightness of that individual’s potential clouding them to the brilliance of their own existence.

During self actualisation we are peeling back the veils one at a time, revealing more of
who we really are deep down inside. We are discovering our intrinsic magnificence and value as a human being. We each have unique gifts to share with the world and with every veil we dissolve we become a little more brilliant and we shine a little brighter.

Erickson talked about how we have all the resources we need and how our unconscious was the storehouse of those resources, we would add to that:

  “you are enough”

 “you are brilliant and you are unique”

 “shine and be bright”

“look in the mirror and see yourself clearly”

The beginning of this journey often starts when you begin to recognise that you have value and you do have a contribution to make in the world. When people have had less than
positive nurturing they may need help along the way.

What I love is the way NLP can help people make those first steps toward self actualisation and if you are a practitioner reading this blog take a moment to recognise your own
brilliance. Not only are you in the process of self actualisation yourself, you are guiding others. In guiding others you are take extra big steps in your own growth.

I’d like to recommend a favourite book of mine here, “Jonathan Livingstone Seagull” by Richard Bach. If you’ve not read it, do give it a go. It is a wonderful metaphor about PSiNLP pre-supposition three:

“Self actualisation is the process of recognising who we already are.”

If you know anyone who is starting out on this journey of self discovery do let them know about our one day workshop on January 28 2012, Your Brilliant You!

This will be aimed at helping people re-connect with their own sense of worth and understand concepts such as “you have all the resources you need within you”. We
are running these workshops as fundraisers for Marie Curie Cancer Care.  For more information follow the link below.

I will be attending the NLP Conference in London next week, it would be love to meet you if you are going. I will be helping out on the ANLP stand at various times throughout the
workshop and will also be    at Joe Cheal’s workshop “The Language Patterns of Captain Jack Sparrow” on Saturday afternoon. Joe will be in full costume and character, definitely worth checking out.

Background information on PSiNLP

In 2010 we (myself and Joe Cheal)  formed a new school of NLP with Julie Silverthorn. Our transatlantic school is the Positive School of Intrinsic Neuro-Linguistic Psychology.  Our intention is to build on the work started by Julie and John with HNLP.  Our school is PSiNLP for short, based on the shortening of our name and also reference to the psychology symbol Psi. All three of us have undergraduate and post graduate degrees in psychology.  For more see our website:

The GWiz Learning Partnership and PSiNLP have just received approval for our Practitioner, Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer’s Training to count as 90 credits toward a full Masters degree in Applied Coaching with a British University. For more details contact me direct.

About Melody @ GWizlearning

Melody spent fourteen years gathering experience of the business world working in banking, telecommunications and the public sector before co-founding The GWiz Learning Partnership in 1993. Melody has a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology, a degree in Psychology and a diploma in Psychotherapy. She is an NLP Master Trainer which allows her to run NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer Training courses certified by the Positive School of Intrinsic Neuro-Linguistc Psychology. She is also a qualified Myers Briggs practitioner and EI practitioner and added to all this is five years Transactional Analysis training, meaning she is able to help organisations access the hidden potential in their staff. She is also in demand for her work in transforming average or even troubled teams into high performers. Melody is a visiting lecturer at University of East London, teaching "Wellbeing and Positive Psychology" to undergraduates. Additionally, she is a member of the CIPD and is ILM accredited. Melody's interests are many and varied. She has a keen interest in personal development, canine and wolf psychology, conservation, movies and running. She also enjoys western horse riding, walking the GWiz dogs, nature watching and stage combat (particularly sword fighting).
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2 Responses to Recognising who we really are!

  1. Ezzy says:

    Hi Melody,
    Thank you for sharing this with us. I don’t know about anyone else but the universe gives out what you ask for and here I am reading up on “Recognising Who We Really Are”.
    Change must be in the air and I believe I deserve to rekindle and connect with my inner self ♥

    Since the beginning of this month, I have undertaken a little challenge, a personal challenge for myself. I have discovered much about who I am and where I am in life – through journalling.
    Once, about 3 years ago I stopped writing about my success secrets, affirmations, learning, self
    realisations journey all in the pursuit of higher greatness and believed I did not need to journal. I wonder how much I could’ve benefited from dotting down my ideas, stories and revelations. Though, looking back through my journal I have found more about myself in the last few days than it has in the last 5 years. Its all there on the pages. I just had to a new page and find it. lol.

    Melody I love, “We each have unique gifts to share with the world and with every veil we dissolve we become a little more brilliant and we shine a little brighter.” Absolutely true!

    Keep up the great work!
    All the Best – Ezzy 😉
    P.s (The universe will reward you with abundance in any shape or form, because you deserve it Melody!)

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