NLP enhances Self Esteem

The success of the Pilot Study (see post below) was very encouraging and I was ready to take my research to the next level. The great thing about the next level was that I would be able to help so many more people.

I decided to design a one day workshop and aim for a minimum of 30 people per workshop. This meant I had to identify a small number of interventions to use with a large group with little or no knowledge of NLP. I chose three, Swish, Change Belief and a guided timeline. I will describe each type of intervention more fully in later posts.

I was delighted when over 60 people signed up for each of the workshops that I scheduled. Again I asked people to fill in psychology questionaires to measure self esteem and well being before, directly after and six weeks beyond the workshop. Again the results were statistically significant.

I asked Joe to co-train the workshop with me because we usually train our NLP courses together and the dynamic works well. We were both very conscious of the language patterns, metaphors and physiology that we used throughout the workshops. We designed stories and content that would enable the participants to begin the process of change before we began the interventions.

There was one particular phrase that had a profound impact on many of the participants and that phrase was “I am enough!” Read what one participant said about her experince:

“During the changing beliefs exercise I tackled a multitude of negative parental labels.  For example, you are not clever enough, you are not fast enough, you are not good enough. During the exercise I could not find a non-negative phrase to counter these.  Then Joe mentioned someone he knew who used the phrase ‘I am enough’.  That was it!!  Immediately my mind created the image of a yellow banner on a pole which I gently waved back and forth so that it was above my head for all to see – ‘I am enough’.”

A second participant also found this statement useful, read it in her own words:

“The main thing I learnt from the workshop, apart from the techniques which were great, was that the technique /exercise doesn’t always work on its own, and that it’s important to look beyond it to plan strategies for coping with the situation. My self-esteem rose during the day and has continued to do so.  The most important thing I took from the day was “I AM ENOUGH”.”

Allow yourself to consider that phrase “I am enough!” What would happen if you truly accepted that about yourself? Perhaps you already do or perhaps you are now open to that possibility!

Next week I will focus on one of the interventions used on the workshop.

Coming soon a free audio down load of the workshop this series of blogs are based on!

If you would like to read my full dissertation click on this link:


About Melody @ GWizlearning

Melody spent fourteen years gathering experience of the business world working in banking, telecommunications and the public sector before co-founding The GWiz Learning Partnership in 1993. Melody has a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology, a degree in Psychology and a diploma in Psychotherapy. She is an NLP Master Trainer which allows her to run NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer Training courses certified by the Positive School of Intrinsic Neuro-Linguistc Psychology. She is also a qualified Myers Briggs practitioner and EI practitioner and added to all this is five years Transactional Analysis training, meaning she is able to help organisations access the hidden potential in their staff. She is also in demand for her work in transforming average or even troubled teams into high performers. Melody is a visiting lecturer at University of East London, teaching "Wellbeing and Positive Psychology" to undergraduates. Additionally, she is a member of the CIPD and is ILM accredited. Melody's interests are many and varied. She has a keen interest in personal development, canine and wolf psychology, conservation, movies and running. She also enjoys western horse riding, walking the GWiz dogs, nature watching and stage combat (particularly sword fighting).
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2 Responses to NLP enhances Self Esteem

  1. I love the idea of “I am enough” which when I read it made me stop and think. Interestingly, it created a sense of excitement to connect that with many of the other pre-suppositions.

    So thank you for the kernal that created the thought.


  2. I gained value from your post, thanks Melody
    ‘I am enough’
    supports the belief :
    ‘people do the best they can with the resources they have available to them at the time’

    It is a strength based, hopeful and acknowledging/forgiving statement that mindsets, resources and actions may become different at a future point in time.

    The invitation here is to consider what this then asks of us in our work/relationship with another.

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