Several people have asked me to write about self esteem and as this is close to my heart I intend to write a series of blogs over the next few months. I consider myself the poster girl for what it means to transform low self esteem to a higher, healthy level. For the first 29 years of my life I had low self esteem and I was probably mildly depressed that whole time. I was in an abusive marriage, a dead end job and did not have any sense of self worth. My only comfort came from my dogs.
For many people who transform their lives there comes a point when they say to themselves, “there must be more to life than this!” For me this happened when I was 29 and I attended a personal development workshop called the “Turning Point”. The name was apt for me, it gave me a whole new perspective and started me off on my journey. BTW this workshop is still around and you can check it out with “soulpurposeint” in my Twitter followers list. This workshop helped me make a major paradigm shift in recognising not only my own value but the value of others too. As a result I changed my entire life, leaving the abusive marriage and dead end job, going to university to study psychology, setting up my own business and most importantly of all forming a healthy relationship with a new partner, Joe. Joe and I have now been married nearly 17 years.
I have spent a great deal of my energy over the last 20 years helping other people make that shift in perception about their own self worth and it is something that brings me great personal joy seeing others blossom. Over the years I have gathered together many tools to offer as a coach, trainer, supervisor and therapist. Several years ago I took a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology and for my dissertation I explored how it was possible to use NLP to improve self esteem and well being. This will be the topic of my next blog.
For those of you who would like to get a head start you can take a peak at both my pilot study and my full dissertation on our website:
Future blogs will look at understanding self esteem, relationships, strategies to build self esteem, confidence, assertiveness and more. If you have a particular question do leave it as a comment below. I will do my best to blog about all questions posed.